Popular and well-liked aren’t the same in middle school

"Student perceptions of social status is really important when building peer relationships in adolescence and middle school," says Nicole Brass. (Credit: Getty Images)

Being popular in middle school doesn’t necessarily mean being well-liked, research finds.

The study finds that middle school students generally consider well-liked classmates to be those who are high achieving academically as well as helpful, kind, and cooperative. However, those who are considered popular are sometimes seen as mean and aggressive toward others. The difference lies in how long the students have been together as classmates.

The findings can help teachers tailor support toward students who may not feel welcome, as well as praise the prosocial behaviors they want their students to emulate.

“Adolescents are hyper aware of what others think of them, as well as who among their peers they think is popular or well-liked,” says Nicole Brass, the study’s lead author and postdoctoral fellow in the University of Missouri College of Education and Human Development. “Student perceptions of social status is really important when building peer relationships in adolescence and middle school.”

Who’s popular in middle school?

In partnership with colleagues at the University of Michigan, Brass surveyed more than 500 middle school students about who they thought were the most well-liked among their classmates and who they thought were the most popular. The survey also asked which characteristics about their classmates made them well-liked and popular, respectively.

Roughly half of the surveyed students had been together as classmates in the same school since kindergarten, and the other half had transitioned to a new middle school after attending elementary school elsewhere. Brass found that for both groups, the most well-liked students were reported to be high achieving academically and exhibited prosocial behaviors, or behaviors intended to help others, including kindness, sharing, and cooperating.

However, the defining traits for who was considered the most popular varied for the two groups. While the students who had been together since kindergarten reported the most popular students were also high achieving academically and prosocial, the students who transitioned to a new middle school reported the most popular students tended to be meaner and more aggressive toward others. In other words, prosocial behavior “stands the test of time” for being well-liked, whereas antisocial behavior may garner popularity in the short run when students do not yet know each other well.

“The main conclusion is that school context matters, as the transition group showed that the most popular students are not always the most well-liked,” Brass says. “A classic example of this is in the Lindsey Lohan movie Mean Girls, where Regina George is the most popular girl in school, yet nobody really likes her due to her mean personality and everybody fears her.”

Learning to be good people

Since adolescents can easily be influenced by their peers at school, Brass explains that students may mimic the characteristics, for better or for worse, of those they view most popular.

“If the popular students are mean, we don’t want the other kids thinking it is okay to be mean or that aggression is the key to becoming more popular,” Brass says. “Rather, if we can develop interventions to help the peer dynamics to be more positive and prosocial, those traits can spread to others, too.”

Brass adds that previous research has shown prosocial adolescents feel more accepted at school, get better grades and test scores, are happier, better liked by their peers, and even go on to have more successful careers and relationships.

“Teachers can play a key role in cultivating a more positive school climate by praising students who are showing prosocial behaviors and choosing carefully who gets paired with who when assigning group projects,” Brass says. “This research can help us brainstorm how best to support teachers in promoting prosocial behaviors among students and all the positive outcomes that come with it.”

Brass is currently collaborating with Christi Bergin, a research professor in the College of Education and Human Development, to develop a virtual professional development series for teachers and research experts to discuss various school topics, including bullying, popularity, school climate, and prosocial behaviors.

“At school, students are there to learn all of the subjects,” Brass says. “But, they are also there to learn how to be good people.”

The study appears in Developmental Psychology.

Source: University of Missouri