Designer clothes, expensive watches, and luxury cars may convey high status, but these flashy items can actually deter new friends, according to a new study.
“…it turns out that potential friends are repelled by the high status symbols…”
The study finds that people are likely to want to be your friend if you are of more modest means.
“When trying to make new friendships, people think that high status symbols will make them look more socially attractive to potential friends. However, it turns out that potential friends are repelled by the high status symbols on others,” says Stephen Garcia, the study’s lead author and an associate professor of psychology and organizational studies at the University of Michigan.
“And to the extent friends are important to well-being, those looking for friends may unwittingly be hindering—not promoting—their own well-being,” says Kimberlee Weaver Livnat, a coauthor and senior faculty member in marketing at the University of Haifa.
In one study, researchers presented 125 participants from a wealthy suburb with one of two scenarios. Those in the presenter’s scenario picked between a luxury car or a basic car to drive to an outdoor wedding party where they could meet new friends, and those in the evaluator’s scenario indicated their reaction to someone arriving in either car.
Nearly two-thirds of the individuals in the presenter’s condition believed the luxury car would be more effective in making friends. However, this choice backfired from the perspective of the would-be friends, who expressed significantly less social interest in that individual; they expressed more social interest in the person with the basic car, Garcia says.
Another study asked people which of two plain t-shirts that participants would wear to a picnic in their efforts to make new friends. One t-shirt had “Walmart” written on it in plain script, and the other t-shirt had “Saks Fifth Avenue” written on it in plain script.
Seventy-six percent of the participants who were presenting themselves chose to wear the t-shirt with “Saks Fifth Avenue,” whereas 64 percent of the would-be friends chose the person wearing the “Walmart” t-shirt as a potential new friend.
Researchers say that the findings only apply to the formation of new friendships.
“In the case of forming business contacts, our last study in this series of studies finds that using status symbols can be helpful in attracting would-be contacts but not remarkably more so than using more neutral status symbols,” says coauthor Patricia Chen, assistant professor of psychology at National University of Singapore.
The findings appear in Social Psychological and Personality Science.
Source: University of Michigan