Why you’ll score more dates if you’re cocky

It's not just men who benefit from being cocky—confidence in women is equally as effective at deterring other women. (Credit: Peter Grifoni/Flickr)

In the dating scene, a little overconfidence might be all it takes to drive away the competition—for both men and women.

“People tend to think of overconfidence as an unappealing quality,” says Sean Murphy, a doctoral student in psychology at the University of Queensland.

“But our work indicates that confidence is such a powerful signal that a little overconfidence can actually be helpful.”

Less competition

Murphy and Professor Bill von Hippel conducted a series of online experiments with more than 3,000 men and women.

“After their confidence was measured, participants wrote dating profiles, which were rated by members of the opposite sex,” says Murphy.

“We found that, on average, overconfident people came across as a blend of highly desirable confidence and highly undesirable arrogance.”

A key issue appeared to be whether there was competition for their romantic target.

Women didn’t necessarily find the cocky men more attractive initially.


However, when men were given the opportunity to pit their profile against someone else’s, they were less willing to compete against cocky guys, while cocky guys were more willing to compete against others.

Computer simulations based on the findings revealed that cocky men were more likely to succeed with women in a competitive environment like a crowded bar or club, because they were less likely to back down when competing for her attention and more likely to drive away the competition.

The researchers also found that it wasn’t just men who benefited from being cocky—confidence in women was equally as effective at deterring other women.

The findings appear in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.

Source: University of Queensland