And social isolation is defined as ????

Social isolation=”Isolating a student socially, such as refusing to talk to or include a student” – click on “Read the original study” above on this page, then go to “survey questions.”

And believe me, it is a form of bullying.

Absolutely it is bullying. It is a mean spirited, nasty way of making a teen’s life completely miserable, and it is possible to do this on more levels that we, as adults, cannot fathom. My sophomore year in high school was a long, lonely year during which my grandfather died, my sister was forced to give up her baby and the people whom I attended high school had decided, for unknown reasons, that I was was a pariah, ignored, occasionally verbally attacked and generally invisible. I attempted suicide that year. I can’t even imagine what it would have been like if there had been a cyberspace in which this could have followed me everywhere I went. Social isolation leads some to suicide, some to murder, some to behaviors that mutilate the victim’s bodies and souls.

I actually think that the focus on bullying is completely wrong. Schools, teachers and parents are focusing on the wrong areas – and it leads to problems in definition like this. It becomes reactive and not proactive.

Socially isolating someone is one of the most pervasive forms of bullying because it tends to fly almost completely under the radar of adults. Part of the problem is that adults do not fell comfortable telling someone who to like or be friends with – it feels wrong.

Unfortunately, isolation bullying is a different animal. Generally it is a decided upon behaviour (“do I risk isolation myself by being nice to this person”) and passed down to the various age groups though the school grapevine. The risk for students who might be friendly with the isolated is to become socially isolated as well. Often it is accompanied by all the other forms of bullying to a greater or lesser extent (see above post).

As a parent, there are things that you can do to help. Get your kid involved outside of the normal school groups – allowing them to meet and interact with people not familiar with their “reputation”. It does help with their self esteem to know that other peers value them even if the people in their own school don’t. It makes it easier for them to to believe you when you tell them that the people that are treating them this way are wrong. When all else fails – move schools – seriously! I’ve known 2 parents who have done this and despite their kids being the new kid (with all that entails) – these kids are no longer afraid to attend school and are no longer isolated. As with anything else, the earlier the intervention, the better.

I grew up with someone in my grade who was treated this way who later committed suicide. 30 years later I still think about him, when I decide how to treat someone and I believe/hope that I’ve taught my kids the same. You don’t have to like someone to treat them with basic human dignity and respect – at any age.

This is what should be worked on. And when this becomes the focus, you’d see that all of the above devisive definitions go away.

Social Isolation is definitely a form of bullying, not only in the school setting and not only for children. I have endured it in varying degrees and circumstances most of my life. It is a pervasive, cruel destroyer of a person’s very substance.
I have yet to understand what makes a person a target for these people. It doesn’t seem to matter if a person “goes with the flow” or not or “follows the rules” or not, they still seem to have a target painted on their back- “Bully Me”. I can certainly see how a person can become so frustrated, angry,overwhelmed, depressed, suicidal.
If anyone knows the secret formula to stop this torture they could almost literally bring life back to so many people.

Here is alternative solution : free tampons for the whinny kids . How are you going to combat social “isolation”? Force kids to spend time with kids they dont like ? Yeah I was an outcast in school so i know the feeling , but i can bet 100$ that school getting involved in such troubles will only make things worse and waste tax payers money . This is responsibility of the parents to be more involved in lives of their kids, watch out for the unhealthy behavior signs and offer social support . And for parents who dont do that ? well social Darwinism has benefits for the society too .

It is indeed bullying. I am a victim of isolation myself. I have always wondered why would anybody just do this to me, all I’ve ever done is to try to be responsible and a good person.
At least I can deal with this. But many others can’t.
It should be interfered with because believe me, this crushes the spirit of whomever is going through it.

I saw a sign the other day that was just wrong. The Bully and the Doormat : a workshop. IN A HOSPITAL! Societal attitude at it’s best. Pejorative words for a victim. Makes you feel like going doesn’t it?

If the passive enmity of willfully ignoring another is not counted as bullying, then the execution of concerted and ongoing deliberate stratagem to isolate the target from others entirely, is certainly covert relational hostility. Freedom of association does not extend to consensus building towards ostracism.

I remember living through this type of bullying for almost four years.
Can it be harmful?
Well let’s look at me, I now hardly speak, I don’t do any type of group activity unless I have to, I am only comfortable around certain people.
It does have its terrible effects.

Whether or not one classifies social isolation as actual bullying, social isolation is a predicate to more overt forms of bullying. Its reasonable to predict that schools without a culture of inclusion are at greater risk of fostering and tolerating other bullying behavior. Small minded, judgemental, insensitive and exclusionary behaviors are insidious and can escalate over time into more cruel and harmful behaviors. Children don’t spontaneously develop bullying behavior; these behaviors aren’t a natural part of development. Bullying behavior is something that is tolerated and fostered throughout childhood. Parents raise bullies. To combat bullying, children must be taught kindness, tolerance, and respect for others. Children must also learn empathy for the suffering of others and to stand up against bullying when they observe it. It is human nature to seek others like ourselves; however, we must also teach our children to embrace diversity and to defy intolerance in all forms. The long term solution to bullying is as simple as following the Golden Rule: Treat others as you would want to be treated.